TRUE FRIENDSHIP

I recently did the mistake of not trusting my best friend. A friend I value and respect more than any other person. A friend who deserve only the best. For she has always been there for me, and I wish I will always have the chance to be there for her.

I didn’t trust that she could solve her own problems.

I was, and still am, deeply hurt that I didn’t support her when she most needed it. Not that this unfortunate situation lasted for a long time, cause it didn’t. It is more the fact that I wasn’t able to follow my own spoken words, my own values of action in this matter.

I tried to help her when she didn’t need my help. I failed to see her attempt of action as fruitful ones. I failed to see that what she was doing was her way of solving the problems.

She didn’t wish to do it my way.

Because I care so much for her, I often end up wanting to create solutions for her difficult life situations. How do I allow this to happen? How can I avoid it and become more conscious about its manifestations?

I’m glad I have been forced to question my own actions through this incident. Forced to rethink my situation and motives. This helps me realize that I need to let go of the constant search to help people by giving them solutions, because the only own who can truly do that are themselves. We can guide them in the right direction and follow them through, and that is our task. Our only one.

What a reminder it was for me to experience this. As you preach you must act – indeed it is so.

And I forgot that, for a second. Hopefully I will remember it for the future to come. Remember that in order to truly valuate my friends, I have to let go of my ego. My ego that tells me that “I need to help her, I need to solve her problems”.

I will change this thought process into something like: ” She is strong, she can handle this. I trust her and her own abilities to solve the problem. I will be here for guidenace and support whenever she asks for it or otherwise gives the impression that she needs it”.

Something like that.

When these kind of circumstances occur it is often difficult to know whether to interact or to take a few steps back, observe, and when necessary give guiding advice. It is a fine balance between these two options and many times we’ll be lost in deciding if we are to intervene or not.

By asking myself the question how I would feel if my best friend wanted to solve my problems, the answer becomes quite clear.

And as I am true to my self and my own needs, I have to remember to always be true to my friends.

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A NEW DAY

It is a new day. The scents of spring is slowly manifesting – in nature, and within my own being.

Questions are asked, and questions are answered – about the purpose of it all. Why are we here? What are our tasks?

Silence enhances the thought process, the reasoning; while we slowly learn to see what we already know deep inside.. Life is beautiful if we choose to see it that way – because the beauty lies within ourselves.

We are what we perceive – and so much more. We are challenged to open our eyes and see the multiple dimensions of this world we live in. We are challenged to discover our true selves.

Only then can we open up to unconditional love and an evolution into light.

We need to free ourselves from the optical illusions – one step at a time. And then – and only then – it will be a new day.

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GUIDED BY A YELLOW UMBRELLA

How often are we to question the essence of life? How long should we wait to accept that the deep understandings of life might never come? Or – rather – that most of this understanding might be simplicity itself?

“We create our own reality”. These are the words of Einstein, a knowledgeable and also a wise man. For it is not a question of knowledge to be able to understand the life circle and our true reality, it is in fact more a question of letting go of knowledge.

Travelling back in time, where instincts were treasured and necessary for survival of man – this might be the path to follow if we wish to once again be in peace with mother earth and all natural laws.

By using, or rather misusing, our minds we often end up trading off our reality – our experience of the Now. By default we live in our past memories, as we live in our future plans.

I like to pretend that I am guided by a large, yellow umbrella, in this quest to find – and to truly live – my very own reality. The umbrella functions as much as a shield to keep other people from opposing society, and its non-essential courtesies, on me – as it symbolizes the pure intent, warmth and light of the sun.

Guided by this yellow umbrella, I am being carried away on my true path, supported by the sun and the wind combined.

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